Decide What Type of a Person You Are

Published January 12, 2011

By Sobia Pervez

You hear a close friend of yours backbiting about you to other friends. He does not know that you can hear. You know this same friend is always nice to you when he is with you. You feel sad and betrayed by the friend’s behavior.

Reactive choices
· Tell him off, then hit him
· Go into depression because you feel bad about what he said
· Decide that he is a two-faced person and give him the silent treatment
· Spread rumors about him since he did the same to you

Proactive choices
· Forgive him
· Confront him and calmly share how you feel
· Ignore it and give him a second chance. Realize that he also has weaknesses just like you

What choice are you going to make? Life is a mission, not a career. A career is a profession. A mission is a cause. A career asks, “What’s in it for me?” A mission asks, “How can I make a difference?” If the Prophet (pbuh) had made his dawah a career, he would not have been able to accomplish his mission, and we would not have been Muslims.

Sobia PervezAuthor Sobia Pervez is a fulltime stay at home mother of three children and holds a Bachelors degree in Psychology.

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