بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

Author: Sh. Omar Suleiman

  • What Is Your Legacy? Will You Be Missed?

    What Is Your Legacy? Will You Be Missed?

    An excerpt from a speech given at the 36th Annual ICNA-MAS Convention

    “How many were the gardens and springs they left behind, and corn-fields and noble buildings, and wealth wherein they had taken such delight. Thus, it was. And We made other people inherit [those things]! And neither heaven nor earth shed a tear over them, nor were they given a respite” (Quran 44:25-29).
    These verses are talking about Pharaoh and his people — people who had much, people who were given much of the dunya, people who had palaces, wealth, and material comfort. And just like that, Allah SWT took it away. And as the verse tells us, “neither heaven nor earth shed a tear over them.”

    Ibn Abbas (RAA) was once asked if the heavens and the earth cry over anybody. And he said, “Yes, they cry; the heavens and the earth shed tears because there is not a single person who does good except that he has a gate through which his good deeds ascend. And whenever he dies that gate is closed. So, the heavens cry for him. And there is not a single place on earth that was affected by his good, even his place of sujud, his musalla, that when he dies, it sheds tears, it cries for him, that he has departed.” Now, if Hosni Mubarak and Bashar Al-Assad and Qadafi were all riding in a van and the vehicle fell off a cliff, I don’t think that many people would feel very sorry for them. And it’s only natural, because the legacy that they left is one of harm and harshness, like Pharaoh.

    What About You?

    Let’s now look at it from the opposite side. When you pass away, will you be missed? It’s a very simple question. The Prophet (pbuh), as recounted in sahih Bukhari, once saw a janazah and said, “Either he is relieved from the world or the world is relieved from him.” And in another incident, a very famous incident, when one janazah was passing by and Rasulullah (pbuh) was with a group of companions and the companions started to say good things about the man who had passed away. Rasulullah (pbuh) said, “It became mandatory, it became mandatory, it became mandatory.” And then another janazah passed by and they said bad things about that person, and Rasulullah said, “It became mandatory, it became mandatory, it became mandatory.” [One said], “O Rasulullah, what became mandatory?” He said, “As to the person you testified was good, because of your testimony, paradise became mandatory for him. And as for the one you spoke ill of, due to your testimony, hellfire became mandatory for him.” Subhanallah, this is a very powerful hadith.

    So here is my point — when you die, and your janazah is being followed and people are at your funeral and people are shedding their tears and people are saying that they’re going to miss you, will they really miss you? Did you really leave a void because you were a person of benefit wherever you were? If you move out of your neighborhood today, will your neighbors even realize a difference, will they even notice that something is different — except that the guy who used to dress funny and the lady in hijab is not there anymore? When you pass away, will there be people who used to receive your sadaqah and receive your goodness who will say, “That person used to do so much for me.” One of the companions narrates that the people of Madinah used to receive much sustenance and they had no idea where it was coming from. No idea. Until Hussain (RAA), the grandson of the Prophet (pbuh), passed away. They then realized it was coming from him. Will there be people who recognize your absence, people who realize you are not here anymore? Will there be a void in your community? Will there be a void in your neighborhood? Would people recognize our absence, as individuals and as a community? Either you are relieved from people or people are relieved from you. Rasulullah says in an authentic hadith, “Whoever makes a well that would satisfy the thirst of some being, not a single jinn, human being, bird, or a wild beast will drink from it except that Allah SWT will reward him for it on the Day of Judgment. And whoever builds a masjid for the sake of Allah SWT, be it large or small, Allah SWT will build for him a house in Paradise.” And what the ulema say about this hadith is so powerful. Dr. A’id El Qarni mentioned that this hadith means that you fulfilled either the physical needs or the spiritual needs of another human being. The most beloved people to Allah SWT are the ones who benefit the people most. When you benefit people either physically or spiritually, you serve a good purpose and there is a void when you are gone.

    Rasulullah (pbuh) spoke about the scholars, saying that even the fish in the sea will ask for forgiveness for them. Why? Because they served. They benefited the people with their knowledge. And you look at someone like Imam Ahmad, rahimahullah, whose janazah was held the same day he died. There was no mass media, no television stations, no newspapers to announce his death. Yet, do you know how many people attended the janazah of Imam Ahmad — 1.3 million people! Think about that. When he left this earth, people recognized that there was going to be a huge void. So, think on the smaller scale now. When you die, will you be missed, will your family miss you, will your neighborhood miss you, will your masjid miss you? Sometimes we don’t appreciate people in our communities and our masajid until they leave the community and suddenly the bathroom is not getting cleaned like it used to be. Suddenly the masjid is not getting vacuumed anymore. All of a sudden, the guy who was collecting the donations is not there anymore. We recognize a void.

    Distributing Goodness and Benefit

    The Prophet (pbuh) and his companions taught us that wherever they were, they distributed their goodness, and even the non-Muslims would wish that they would remain there amongst them. And when Rasulullah (pbuh) was with the ansar, they desired intensely that he stay amongst them, as did the muhajireen. The reality is that no matter how eloquent we are in our speeches, no matter how right our argument is, no matter how involved we get in mass media, we will not truly be able to succeed in giving dawah until the people of this country stand up and testify on our behalf and say that they want Muslims in this country, that they want Muslims to be here, that Muslims offer the society benefits. They could say, “When a flood hit, they were the first people there, ICNA Relief was there. People with Muslims for Humanity shirts were there. They were serving us, we want them to be here.”

    I’ve said this before and I’ll say it again – one positive incident, one incident of you giving a sandwich to somebody who is hungry is enough to undo, in that person’s mind, 20 years of FOX News programming. One incident, one encounter. We should think very deeply about that and the role our community should play, and the role that we as individuals should play. Will you be missed? Will the heavens and the earth cry for you when you pass away? Will the people cry for you, will they feel the loss deep in their hearts? We ask Allah SWT to make us among those who are sorely missed, to be among those — not who the world is relieved from — but of those who are relieved from the world when they pass away. And we ask Allah SWT to enter us into the highest level of Jannah to be in the company with Rasulullah (pbuh) and his companions. Ameen.

  • Nothing Worthy of Fear but Allah SWT

    Nothing Worthy of Fear but Allah SWT

    Fear is a very interesting emotion — it can motivate or it can paralyze. It can be productive or it can be destructive, depending on who you fear, why you fear, and what you fear. Fear is either praised in the Quran or it is looked down upon when it becomes paralyzing and destructive and leads you to nowhere but despair. Unless you have hope to bring balance, there’s no way that fear could possibly be productive because it is so often a paralyzing emotion. It needs hope in order for it to be productive.
    Courage and Composure
    If there were to be an attack on a city, what usually happens to the most important people that reside in that city? Where do they go? What do they do? They take refuge in safe, secured locations. When a head of state is present and an attack unfolds, typically speaking, the head of the state will be locked down under maximum security, and those who are already most vulnerable, the people, and especially the poorest people, will be at greatest risk. The most powerful and those deemed most important are hid away, often by their own commands. But now, consider a hadith narrated by Anas ibn Malek (RAA) that describes the quality of fearlessness of the Prophet (pbuh). The Prophet is described as the best of people, the most perfect of people, the most generous, and the most courageous. And Anas ibn Malek recalled an incident that took place where there was some noise outside in the middle of the night in Madinah, and the people thought they were under attack. So, when Madinah is under attack where do you think the Prophet (pbuh) should go? What do you think the protocol should be? Wouldn’t most people expect that everyone would surround the house of the Prophet and make sure that he’s protected?
    Yet, Anas ibn Malek says, “And we came out and we see the Prophet (pbuh) riding on his horse, unstrapped to it.” The Prophet (pbuh) is on his horse and has his sword in his hand and is riding around to make sure that any attack would be deterred. And the Prophet says to the people who had gathered, ”Do not be afraid, do not be afraid.” Ali (RAA) said that when a battle would become toughest, when it would become hardest, and when they would be utterly exhausted, the people would be behind the Prophet (pbuh) in battle. He was the nearest to the enemy. Al-Baraa said that the bravest of them would only be standing next to him. This was the Prophet (pbuh) — such courage and such composure in the face of things that would typically cause people absolute fear.
    Nothing Worthy of Fear but Allah SWT
    There are various things that humans fear. Some people fear death and might find it radical to be told that they shouldn’t fear the end of life. Of course, one can quote Socrates or Plato on the unwisdom of fearing death, or a more contemporary figure like Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. who referenced the willingness to die for some good, rather than fearing death: “If you haven’t found something worth dying for, you aren’t fit to be living.” When the Prophet said that the nations will gather against the Muslims and feast on them as at a table, and fear would be placed in their hearts, the companions asked what that fear was. The Prophet told them the fear is loving the world too much and hating death too much. There needs to be something that gives you absolute resolve in the face of things that normally cause people to fear. That is what eman is. And so, the Prophet (pbuh) didn’t fear the snares of the people or their stares or their smears. What was it about the Prophet that when a man, an enemy with sword in hand, stands above him and says, “O Mohammed, who will stop me from killing you?” — that the Prophet, with full composure and tranquility, can say, “Allah.” This is complete trust in Allah, that nothing was worthy of fear but Allah, and that no consequence that would be faced for His sake, is to be feared either. What’s the worst that they could do to you when you’re living for Allah SWT? If they slander you, then Allah will glorify you and raise you. If they kill you, it’s martyrdom. That’s the fearlessness that was in the voice, the unquivering voice of Ibn Taymiyyah (RAA) when he said, “What can my enemies do to me? My Paradise is in my heart; it goes with me wherever I am. If they kill me, it is martyrdom. If they exile me from my land, it is a journey in the Path of Allah. If they imprison me, it is to allow me a chance to be in seclusion with Allah.”
    There’s no fear because there’s nothing worth fearing except Him, and there’s no consequence worth fearing if it is faced because of your determination to do what He commands you to do. And the Prophet (pbuh) taught us many lessons in this regard. In fact, when a person overcomes some difficulty in his or her life, then they’re able to conceive of how they would deal with a difficulty of an even greater magnitude. Consider the dignity and courage of our modern-day Muslim heroes, like Malcolm X, who said that he never did or said anything except that he expected the most difficult of circumstances in consequence of it. Mohammed Ali, may Allah have mercy on him, was the most outspoken and blunt for the sake of Allah and for the truth. His apartment on the South Side of Chicago was set on fire the day that Malcom was assassinated. These adversities caused him to grow in his faith and determination. These individuals, rather than fearing what might befall them, had an inner stability and always remembered the One from Whom they came and to Whom they would return, and what their purpose was in this world. And they knew, with fierce conviction, the One who truly protects the believer, and from whom rewards and honor come. What then can anyone do to the believer?
    The Fearlessness of the Prophet (pbuh)
    In the Battle of Uhud, the Prophet (pbuh) was almost killed and he was carried behind the mountain. One of the enemy, Abu Sufiyan, called out, “We have our idols and honor and you have no honor.” The Prophet (pbuh) didn’t tell Omar (RAA) to respond by insulting their idols. These, to the believers, were insignificant. Omar responded, saying, “Allah is our protector, and you have no protector.” He referred the exchange back to Allah because if you have Allah then nothing else matters. Then no one can frighten or scare you; then no one can intimidate you, because you realize that all dignity, honor, and protection come from Him SWT.
    If there were any moment that would send shivers down your spine, it would be a time like when Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) and Abu Bakr (RAA) were hiding in a cave after escaping from the Quraysh in Makkah. Their pursuers were just a few feet away, with their swords ready to kill. They had already seen so many of the believers killed, and they had already seen the torture of Ammar, Somaiya, Khabbab, and others. When Abu baker (RAA) started to fear, not for himself, but for the Prophet, the Prophet said to him with full composure, “Don’t be afraid, Allah is with us.” A verse in the Quran about them hiding in the cave tells us, “Then Allah sent down His calmness upon him, and strengthened him with forces which you saw not, and made the word of those who disbelieved the lowermost, while it was the Word of Allah that became the uppermost, and Allah is All-Mighty, All-Wise” (9:40). When you have that composure, as you look around you, and so many things are meant to intimidate you, so many things are is meant to threaten you, so many things are meant to shock you, but in the inside, you’re growing in that trust in God to where it doesn’t even faze you anymore.
    Building Trust in Allah SWT
    I’m not going to pretend like I have no fears, and I’m not going to suggest that any one of us has attained the courage of the Prophet (pbuh) or that we will ever attain the courage of the Prophet. But I will suggest that the Prophet’s courage always circulated around the singular concept of tawheed, experiencing monotheism in the heart and settling the heart with Allah. Yes, believers have a radical fear of Allah and a radical fearlessness of those who try to intimidate us because of our belief in Allah. Allah knows that we have enough courageous examples from the lives of the Prophet and his companions, and the righteous in our own lifetimes, that we’re able to propel through the most difficult of circumstances.
    Whatever we see happening around us, the militarism, Islamophobia, xenophobia, and the crassness and dishonesty of politicians, all that can unsettle and frighten people. The greatest way to protect ourselves is to build the trust in Allah SWT by centering Him in our lives during the times that are not frightening so that we’ll have Him in times that are frightening. And that’s what the Prophet (pbuh) taught us: “Be mindful of Allah, and you will find him in front of you. Know Allah during times of prosperity and He will know you in times of adversity.” That’s not just referring to your financial and material situation. Be with Allah in times when you’re not afraid, and Allah will know and be with you in times that you are afraid. Center Allah in your life, and as a community we need to center Allah SWT again and again in our discourse. And we need to remind ourselves that Allah is our protector, and whatever we encounter, there is no protector but Him.

  • Searching for a Pure Spouse

    Searching for a Pure Spouse

    One day, a young pious man by the name of Thabit had no food to eat. As he was walking, he came across a garden with an abundance of apple trees. Although the garden was fenced, the trees were so mature that their apples were hanging over the fence. Innocently, he took an apple and started to eat from it. After he finished that apple, he felt an extreme sense of shame and guilt as he did not take permission from the owner of that garden. The guilt drove him to go and apologize to the owner and ask him what he could do to pay for the apple. To his surprise, the owner said “The only way you can pay me back is by marrying my daughter.” On the surface, it seemed like a pretty good deal. Then the owner said, “But you must know that my daughter is deaf, dumb (unable to speak), and blind.” Thabit pondered upon this but not too long as he sensed that he had committed a great crime by eating the apple that didn’t belong to him. So he agreed to marry the man’s daughter to absolve himself of the sin. As he entered upon her, to his surprise the woman was beautiful and returned his salaam. He looked at her and said “But your father said that you are deaf, dumb, and blind!” She smiled and responded “I am deaf to all forms of backbiting, gossip, and lying, dumb to any thoughts that are displeasing to Allah, and blind to that which Allah has not permitted me to look at.” It had become clear that Allah (swt) had rewarded Thabit for his sincerity, good character, and honesty with a pious woman. Through that woman, Allah would bestow upon Thabit a son by the name of Nouman, otherwise known as Imam Abu Hanifa (RAA).

    I open with this story for the purpose of discussing the magnificent words of Allah (subhanauwata’ala):

    “Women impure are for men impure, and men impure for women impure and women of purity are for men of purity, and men of purity are for women of purity; these (pure men and women) are not affected by what people say; for them there is forgiveness, and anhonorable provision.” (SuratNur, Ayah 26)
    It should be noted that the mufasiroon (interpreters) of the Noble Quran offered different interpretations of this verse. Some of them understood that Allah was referring to words and actions rather than women when He (subhanahuwata’ala) used the words “khabeethat” and “tayyibat.” They opined that the message being delivered was that men of honor and purity only speak and act in honorable ways and the opposite also holds true.  However, the opinion of AbdulRahmanIbnZaydIbnAslam (rA) and many others was that this verse was referring to pure men being for pure women and vice versa. In fact, they stated that this verse was revealed in connection to the slander against the mother of the believers, Ayesha (rA), as a proclamation of her innocence. As Al Baghawi (rA) states, it was to say that those who were accusing Ayesha (rA) of being unchaste were closer to being so themselves as Ayesha (rA) was a pure woman and was married to the purest of men, the Messenger of Allah (salAllahualayhiwasalam). For this reason, some of the scholars restricted the meaning of this “purity” to chastity. Abdullah Ibn Abbas (rA) in his explanation stated that “never did the wife of a prophet commit an act of adultery.” The evidence for this meaning is that we find that the wives of some prophets, as in the case of Nuh and Lut(alayhimussalam), despite being disbelievers, never committed adultery. Other scholars, such as As-Saadi (rA), understood the words “pure” and “impure” in a general sense rather than restricting them to chastity.  This means that men who lead honorable lives are for women wholead honorable lives, and these men and women act and speak in an honorable fashion.

    The problem that many people find with this meaning is that we sometimes see in our communities very pious women who end up with impious men and vice versa. Would that mean that Allah (subhanahuwata’ala) has broken a promise or stated something unrealistic? The answer is that the general rule is that upright men and women end up with uprightspouses, whereas corrupt men and women end up with corrupt spouses. There are, however, instances in whichan upright individual is tested by Allah (subhanahuwata’ala) with a corrupt spouse. A similar instance is when righteous parents are tested with a disobedient child. Although that is sometimes an unfortunate reality, it would be unreasonable to suggest that regardless of the behavior of parents, there is always an equal chance of having an obedient ordisobedient child. Likewise in the case of marriage, your morality and righteousness are bound to have an effect on who Allah (subhanahuwata’la) grants you as a spouse.

    It is too often the case that young Muslims will indulge in disobeying Allah (subhanahuwata’ala) by experimenting with many forbidden things during their high school and college years but then all of a sudden expect to be granted spouses with piety.  Experimenting with forbidden things is, in part, due to the unreasonable academic, professional, and cultural expectations sometimes placed by Muslim parents upon their children.This can make marriage seem like a distant and unreachable aim to many youth. That does not, however, absolve anyone from the responsibility to demonstrate restraint with regard to forbidden relationships or condemnable actions.

    This is a situation in which the “I’ll get religious later” mentality can prove particularly deadly.  One might just find that when he/she decides to get “religious” and live an upright life, the person who they hoped to be the ideal spouse turns out to be just as shallow as them. They would soon discover that their“best of both worlds” gimmick didn’t go as planned.Things begin to unravel and their newly beloved’s past turns out to be just as dark as theirs.

    It is a sad that any Imam will confirm that this is very common in our communities. I appeal to my unmarried brothers and sisters to realize that you yourself have to be what you hope for and expect in your future spouse because your Lord will ultimately grant you what you are deserving of.  If you stay true to your Islamic beliefs and convictions and Allah decides to test you with someone who is not to your level, then Allah will compensate you for that in the hereafter, and Allah is the best of Compensators. If you are living in disobedience and think that you’ll be able to bury it in the past without sincere repentance, know that you can fool a human’s perception, but Allah knows well your secrets.Guard your prayers, your gaze, your purity, and place your hope in Allah and you may just find the best of both worlds; not the gimmicky “best of both worlds,” but the best of this dunya and the best of the hereafter. As the messenger of Allah (salAllahualayhiwasalam) said “This world is all temporary pleasures and the best of the temporary pleasures of this world is a virtuous wife”(Muslim). I ask Allah (subhanahuwata’ala) to make us virtuous and make our spouses virtuous, and to grant us from our spouses and offspring the coolness of our eyes. Ameen

    by Imam Omar Suleiman