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  • Is There Such a Thing as Muslim American Culture?

    Is There Such a Thing as Muslim American Culture?

    Do Muslim Americans have a culture unique to them compared to Muslims in, for instance, Palestine or Sudan? If Islam is a universal religion which transcends time and place, does that mean Muslim Americans could adopt their own culture within the folds of Islamic orthodoxy – a culture that reflects the norms of the society they live in?

    Before delving into culture and its role in Islamic law, it’s important to emphasize that Islamic law is primarily derived from the Qur’an and the authentic hadith (i.e., the Sunnah). As for matters that are not explicitly referenced in either source, ijtihad of the scholars is utilized, which entails highly qualified groups of scholars giving rulings on unaddressed issues using principles derived from the two primary sources of Islamic law. The primary sources are agreed upon, while the secondary sources are sometimes disputed depending on the scholar and his or her methodology.

    One example of a secondary source that is sometimes disputed is that of ‘urf (customs). In Arabic, ‘urf is defined as “recurring practices that are acceptable to people of sound nature,” which excludes any practices that are corrupt and contradict the Shari’ah (Mohammad Hashim Kamali). The instability and relative volatility of culture and custom is the reason many scholars hesitate to utilize it frequently in rulings; however, it is generally used in rulings with wisdom and knowledge and arguably one of the most important considerations in issuing verdicts to people of different cultures and lands.

    ‘Custom Is Determinative’

    There is a famous Islamic maxim, a principle used in jurisprudence, that states “custom (or culture) is determinative,” as well as a related sub-maxim: common usage is an authority that must be acted upon. The authority of this maxim is derived from the Quran and sunnah, such as with reference to treating one’s spouse with “ma’roof” (goodness), a reference to what is considered acceptable according to the customs of a people. This may include how much money is customarily spent on a household, as a lifestyle, on one’s wedding, for one’s dowry, and so forth.

    The point of the maxim is that customs come into effect and are determinative when an issue cannot be determined based on the primary sources of Islamic law. “Anything that has no definition in the law or in language is referred back to custom,” according to one scholar (Al-Isnawi), while other scholars have made it clear that it is an obligation to rely on customs in judicial proceedings (ibn al-Qayyim). In short, customs can be used to establish a religious ruling as long as there is no religious text that goes against it.

    However, there are conditions for customs to be used in rulings. The first is that the custom or practice does not conflict with invariable and established rulings and principles of the Shari’ah. For example, the custom must not be religious in nature (e.g., celebrating Christmas as Muslim Americans). Another condition is that the custom must either be a general one amongst a population or a majority custom of the people. Thus, it should not be limited to just a handful of people, or sinners or a sinful lifestyle. In matters that are mentioned in the Shari’ah without specifics, and the specifics are not found in the language itself, customs may also play a role, such as in some financial contracts.

    Neither Accepting Nor Rejecting All Non-Muslim Customs

    Sometimes, Muslims who immigrate to pluralistic societies may find themselves relating to a custom of their people back home (i.e., in another country with different customs). Thus, their perspective of the customs of the local population, such as Americans or Canadians, might be to wrongfully assume that all “non-Muslim customs” are to be rejected. However, non-Muslims (disbelievers) are not all the same, nor are their customs all similar. Furthermore, there are many Muslim Americans who have converted to Islam and have their roots in this country for generations. There are also Muslims whose parents or grandparents immigrated, but they find themselves relating to some aspects of American culture that don’t contradict Islamic law. The notion of accepting or rejecting all customs from any country or society is not based on Islamic law, it’s an assumption that comes from a place of ignorance regarding what Islam actually says about the role of custom.

    For example, when it comes to dress, Islamic law has conditions in place based on the Qur’an and authentic hadith. These rulings are consistent across all customs and cultures; however, there are some areas of dress code in Islamic law that are not addressed, such as the style or color of clothing. How would the Prophet Muhammad (s) dress if he lived in today’s world, in a region of the world that dressed differently than modern or historic Arab civilizations? Over the years, many great scholars have commented on the custom of the Prophet (s) with regards to his clothing, and emphasized the role of custom in the behavior, action, lifestyle, and preference of the Messenger of Allah (s), a role which remains in effect for Muslims in a timeless manner. “The custom of the Prophet (s) with regards to clothing was that he would wear whatever Allāh had facilitated for him of the clothes of his people. So, he would wear a qamīṣ, a turban, an izār, a ridā’, a shawl, and so forth. He would wear cotton and wool, and other garments, and he would also wear what was imported from Yemen and other lands. So his Sunnah actually necessitates that a man should wear whatever Allāh has facilitated for him in his land, even if it be more luxurious [than this]…” (Ibn al-Qayyim)

    Of course, the obvious disclaimer for those who may misunderstand the scholarly statement above is that the custom with regards to anything cannot contradict the explicit rules of the Shari’ah. In other words, if a nation-state today predominantly wore little clothing or did not cover the ‘awrah (the areas of the body that must be covered, according to Islamic law, pertaining to both genders), it would be prohibited in Islam to imitate them with the justification of “customs”. The same applies to other customs and practices, such as food.

    ‘Abdullāh b. ‘Abbās reports that a roasted lizard was brought to eat for the Prophet (s). Khālid b. Walīd was with him. When the Prophet was informed of what it was, he withdrew his hand. Khālid b. al-Walīd said, “O Messenger of Allāh, is the lizard forbidden (to eat)?” The Prophet (s) replied, “No, but it is not found in the land of my people so I do not find a liking for it.” Khālid said, “I then chewed and ate it, and Allāh’s Messenger (s) was looking at me and he did not forbid me” (Sahih Muslim).

    A seeming conflict arises with the famous hadith, “whoever imitates a people is from them” (Sunan Abi Dawud), but the context of the hadith is a religious one, such as by imitating the religious practices of other people, or the sinful practices that contradict Islamic laws and maxims. As for wearing the same color or pattern of the majority of one’s population, or using similar language (that is not profane or immoral), this is a matter that has flexibility in the Shari’ah. Again, however, Muslim Americans – just like Muslims in any other pluralistic society, need to be strong and proud of their faith, and recognize that imitation is a form of flattery. If Muslim Americans watered down their faith and imitated other people in matters that are Islamically prohibited, then what’s left for Muslims to exemplify of Islam?

    Some areas where this maxim plays a role include marriage and divorce, such as with the wedding dowry (i.e., giving a mahr/dowry that is suitable for the custom and background of the woman), the wedding itself – so long as it does not contradict anything of the Sharia’h (e.g., free-mixing between the genders, prohibited music, the bride removing her hijab, etc.), and the pronunciation of divorce. In the last case, if certain terminology is unique to a population and it’s understood in that society to imply a specific meaning that’s inclusive of divorce, such as a term that means “it’s over,” it would be taken into consideration based on the custom of the people if the couple was to dispute whether or not divorce had taken place.

    Ultimately, the most important thing for all Muslims to consider with regards to customs in Islamic law is that one must turn to scholars and scholarly councils for official verdicts rather than formulating their own opinions with the justification of “customs are determinative,” and to know that the most important boundaries are those of the Shari’ah, even if that means that there is in fact a very small area carved out as uniquely Muslim American.

  • Your Child is Being Bullied: What Should You Do?

    Your Child is Being Bullied: What Should You Do?

    Bullying happens too often in schools, both in public and Islamic schools, and parents often don’t know what to do to help their child when he or she is a victim of bullying. When a parent becomes aware that their child is being bullied, it’s very important to address the issue immediately in order to avoid the negative effects of bullying. Those negative effects can impact their development, and diminish their confidence, security, and sense of self-worth.

    Studies in the past have shown that children who are subjected to bullying are likely to have problems in various other aspects of their lives. In addition to feeling unsafe, the child who is subjected to bullying feels the misery of social rejection. This can lead to poor academic performance and other more serious problems as the child gets older. Wanting to feel accepted and liked by his or her peers is extremely important to a child. Yet some children simply lack the social skills that allow them to navigate their way successfully on the playground, in groups of children playing together, or in any casual interaction with peers whether in the classroom, in the hallway, or during lunch at the cafeteria.

    For all children, the younger ones as well as older youth, it is also very important to make sure that they have some basic guidelines as to how to respond when bullying does occur. There is a nonprofit organization that provides very practical steps that you can teach your child in this regard. Their website is www.kidpower.org. The guidelines are available at: kidpower.org/library/article/prevent-bullying/.

    In all cases, make sure that you are supportive of your child and that he or she knows they can tell you anytime about what is going on at school and anything they are having difficulty with. Never convey the idea to your child that he should ignore the bullying or that she is somehow to blame. Make sure he knows that bullying is wrong and that it is not his fault. Share with your child the Islamic teachings about mocking others, calling them names, or talking badly about other people. You can read with your child Surah Al-Hujurat, verse 11, and discuss the meaning on an age-appropriate level.

    When your child is bullied, gently try to get him or her to talk about the bullying so that you can elicit information and details about when, where, and how it happens. Talk to your child’s teacher and, if necessary, the school principal and let them know that you want to work with them to ensure that your child does not continue to be subjected to bullying.

    Most importantly, make sure that your home is a place where your child feels safe and secure, physically as well as emotionally. Your child should always feel that he/she can openly and honestly communicate with you. Let your child know that together you can solve any problem or handle any challenge, and that with patience and perseverance the solution will be found.

    Contributed by LivingEman.com

  • It’s Your Life – Balance It with Your Faith

    It’s Your Life – Balance It with Your Faith

    It’s easy to get overwhelmed with life — school, career choices, family, friends, social activism, political involvement, worship, etc. Sometimes you just wonder, “where is the right balance.”

    Being a young American Muslim means navigating social, political, cultural, and personal challenges

    The Quran and the teachings of the Prophet (peace be upon him) don’t just lay out a simplistic or doctrinaire formula to follow for balancing one’s life because human beings are complex, diverse in our demographics and personal attributes. Rather than giving a formula, the Quran and Sunnah of the Prophet (pbuh) give us guidelines on how to tackle the personal, social, spiritual, cultural, political, and occupational challenges in our lives.

    Inspiring Social Change

    It all begins with one’s connection to Allah. That connection, revisited five times a day with daily prayer, is the foundation for the right spiritual orientation that serves as the basis for balancing every other aspect of one’s life. An important result of the right spiritual orientation, related to the social, political, and cultural aspects of life, is social activism. When faith becomes fully absorbed and embraced, it not only becomes a means of change in the individual, but a means to change the society he/she lives in as well.

    I recently read and was inspired by the biography of Badsha Khan (1890 – 1988), the Pathan social worker and activist who founded the non-violent volunteer social group Khudai Khidmatgar (Servants of God) and established schools/literary centers throughout the forsaken Northern Indian Frontier. This was key to changing the cultural stagnation of his people and bringing about India’s independence from British colonialism. Even Gandhi was a fan and joined forces with him, calling him an “unquestionable man of God.” Badsha Khan was indeed a man of faith, and that faith became a catalyst for change in him, and then for the society around him.

    A key to finding balance in your life with your career is just finding what makes you happy, and being excellent at that

    When Pope Francis visited America last year and gave his historic speech to congress, he mentioned Dorothy Day amongst his four most notable figures in American history that were so vital for making this country great. Dorothy Day (1897-1980) was a convert to Catholicism, a journalist and social activist who started the Catholic Worker Movement. This became the foundation for the many hundreds of soup kitchens and other Catholic charities we see around the country today. During her time, anti-Catholic sentiment was very high. But with the establishment of many Catholic orphanages, schools, and hospitals, all building blocks of positive social change, the Catholic religion became “normalized,” woven into the fabric of American culture.

    The social activism of people like Badsha Khan and Dorothy Day is very inspiring, and is exactly the kind of contributions that young Muslims of America can offer today. No one is more equipped with creativity, energy, intelligence, and American authenticity to “normalize” Islam and combat the current trends of Islamophobia, than the Muslim youth of America today. At the same time, their social activism can also serve to make the country a better place for all Americans. Not everyone needs to be a Badsha Khan or Dorothy Day, but part of finding the balance in one’s faith is using it not just as a means of self-improvement, but improvement and bettering of the society you live in as well. The Prophet (pbuh) said, “the best people are those who are the most beneficial to others.”

    Identity: ‘O My People’

    The reason that the likes of people like Badsha Khan and Dorothy Day were so successful is that they were able to see their fellow Indians and Americans, respectively, as “their people.” This is the prophetic spirit that serves as a most essential aspect of embracing an identity that is conducive for social change, and balancing between one’s Muslim and American roots. I say it is the prophetic spirit because all throughout the Quran, the prophets (peace be upon them) addressed their people as “O my people” (ya qawmy). That is a term of endearment, and a term that suggests belonging to, and identification with, the very people they were addressing. This despite the fact that the people they were addressing were mostly pagan or polytheist. Thus, it is possible to belong to a people, feel deep concern for their welfare, and have feelings of affection for them even if they don’t share your religion. They may not be your ummah (religious community), but they are a part of your qawm (people).

    Faith should not just inspire how to interact with and change the larger society you live in, but how you see yourself and your place in that larger society as well

    A question then arises. How many of our Muslim youth can look at their neighbor, be he/she ethnically, demographically, racially and/or religiously different, and truly, honestly feel in their hearts that they are “my people.” Perhaps a more important question follows: how can we be a catalyst of social change and benefit for them if we don’t feel that belonging, identification, and affection? And how can we have a balanced approach to a Muslim-American identity if we don’t embrace that? Faith should not just inspire how to interact with and change the larger society you live in, but how you see yourself and your place in that larger society as well.

    Political Involvement

    Political awareness and engagement on local, state, and national levels are essential to giving Muslims the voice they need to achieve relevance and consideration of our interests on the national level. Interestingly, the Prophet (pbuh) stated that using one’s voice to instigate change for the better is a religious obligation. He said, “When one sees a wrong, let him change it by his hand, and if he cannot, then by his tongue…” The tongue is what produces voice. Tasweet in the Arabic language means to produce a voice, but it also means to vote.

    Many Muslims may not see political involvement as a necessary part of faith — and it isn’t. But producing change with one’s “voice” is, and there is no greater or more effective way of doing that than voting. Especially now, when the country’s soul is essentially up for grabs in this historic election. Young Muslims have many opportunities for more political involvement, whether it be on the local or national level. Organizations such as MPAC and CAIR are good places to start. Regardless of the approach, having a strong political awareness and voice is a key component to a faith-driven balanced life for the American Muslim.

    Aim High and Pursue Your Passion

    I once gave a talk about career choices and was approached by a well-intentioned “uncle” afterwards. He told me that this idea of pursuing one’s passion as a life career choice was ridiculous, and that I did not understand the “rule of fours.” I asked him what that was, and he told me in his culture you are either a doctor, lawyer, engineer, or failure. Yup – that’s it — four options. Unfortunately, this kind of sentiment is all too pervasive in the Muslim community. If everyone is a doctor, lawyer, or engineer, not only would that create imbalance in our communities, but psychologically it would create imbalance in anyone who is not naturally passionate about those fields. A key to finding balance in your life with your career is just finding what makes you happy, and being excellent at that. Muhammad Ali was not a doctor, lawyer, or engineer, but he became an honorable and beloved man by being true to himself and sincere in his faith; and he pursued his passion until he became great at it. American Muslims need to follow that example, and aim high in their careers. The Prophet (pbuh) said at the end of a longer hadith, “…If you ask of Allah, ask Him for Firdaus [the highest place in Paradise]” (Sunan Ibn Majah). We can infer from this that we are meant to aim high in all our endeavors. In fact, of the three dimensions of faith — Islam, eman, ihsan — ihsan is the pinnacle. The basic meaning of “ihsan” is excellence, the pursuit of perfection; and we are instructed, as Muslims, to strive for excellence in all aspects of our lives, in our intentions, words, and actions. Thus, it is the sunnah of the Prophet (pbuh) to aim high in one’s career, whatever that career choice is — not limiting oneself to a few possible professions.

    Allah said that the parable of a good word (meaning any utterance or idea that is true and good and beneficial) is like a good tree, “…its roots firmly fixed, and it’s branches [reaching out] toward the sky…” (Quran 14:24). One beautiful commentary about the “branches [reaching out] toward the sky” states that Allah said that to show that for the person of faith, there is no end to their potential. Such should be the psychology of the young American Muslim, with whatever career path they choose in life. I’m reminded of the hadith where the Prophet (pbuh) put his hand on the shoulder of Salman Al-Farsi and said “If this faith were to reach the constellation of Pleiades (tharya), it would be someone from this person’s type that would reach it” (Bukhari). What better way of showing that the real sunnah of the Prophet (pbuh) is to really “reach for the stars.” The only real way to find balance in one’s life with their career is to follow the Prophet’s sunnah and aim high. The only way to really do this is truly to pursue your passion.

    Making Time for Family, Friends, and Fun

    We are social creatures, and without a constant dose of healthy social engagement, our lives will not be balanced. This is a prophetically recognized need. When Ibrahim (pbuh) left his family in the barren land of Becca (now called Mecca) he made dua for them, asking Allah to “incline people’s hearts towards them” (Quran 14:37). That is essentially the foundation for a social network.

    Having a strong network of friends and family in one’s life is not just an important part of a balanced life, but a healthy part of life in general. In fact, it’s likely a part of why some communities in the world tend to live longer than others. That is what Dan Buettner shows in his bestseller book, “Blue Zones,” that looks at places in the world where people live the longest — Sardinia, Italy; Okinawa, Japan; Nicoya, Costa Rica; and a community of Seventh-day Adventists in Loma Linda, California). Amongst other factors, all had strong social networks, with large and frequent family and friend get-togethers. Having family and friends in our lives is one of the most important components of a balanced life, as they see us from an angle we don’t see ourselves, and have our best interest in mind with their advice, support, and constructive criticism.

    And in the midst of it all, don’t forget to have some time to yourself and just have fun! We know about sleep debt, but few people know that we can also have a “play debt,” as detailed by Dr. Stuart Brown in his bestseller book “Play.” Whether it be sports, games, or simple playfulness, don’t forget to include some play in your life. Even the Prophet (pbuh) would take time to race with Aisha (R). Having a faith-driven balanced life means having fun too.

    In conclusion, being a young American Muslim means navigating social, political, cultural, and personal challenges. These challenges apply in many ways to every person, but also in other ways are unique to each individual. The Quran and teachings of the Prophet (pbuh) provide timeless advice for navigating those challenges, and balancing one’s life in healthy, happy, and successful ways.