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  • The Complete Islamic Personality

    The Complete Islamic Personality

    It is well known and understood that Islam is a holistic system that impacts all areas of a person’s life. We hear this often but do we really know what this means and how it plays out in our lives? On this topic, Imam Hasan Al-Banna has a beautiful and instructive statement about being intent on reforming ourselves. He says, “A Muslim should strive to attain a strong body, good character, cultured thought. He should be able to earn a living, have pure belief, and correct worship. He should be able to control his desires, be careful about his time, organized in his affairs, and beneficial to those around him. These comprise the duties of every Muslim as an individual.” These ten points provide a well-rounded approach to personal development according to the teachings of Islam.

    Everything that we do is in the service of Allah (SWT), and what He requires from us is the intention and striving to bring about benefit to ourselves and all of humankind

    According to the above quote, the first strength necessary for a complete Islamic personality is physical strength. Our health is a blessing and responsibility from Allah subhanahu wa ta`ala (exalted is He) and the quality with which we take care of it affects all areas of our lives. If we are healthy, we have greater clarity of thinking, more energy, and enhanced emotional stability. Conversely, when we neglect our health, we fall victim to physical maladies like fatigue or lethargy, psychological issues like anxiety or depression, and spiritual struggles. For these reasons, good health is foundational in the development of the well-rounded Muslim personality.

    From good health comes the second strength which is an outward manifestation of a quality relationship with one’s Creator — good character. The Arabic word mat?n means good but also firm. We can infer from this dual meaning that strong character must demonstrate itself not only in times of ease but also when things are difficult. When things are easy, it is no great challenge to maintain good conduct and treat people in the best way possible; but in the face of hardship, fatigue, frustration, disappointment, anger, and an array of other emotions, the fortitude of one’s character is put to the test. The person who has firm character can withstand these tests, but the one who is only putting on a show will eventually be exposed for who he really is.

    Time is life itself and the person who squanders time is squandering opportunities to develop the self and purify the heart

    The third strength necessary to build a strong Muslim personality is intellectual and educational rigor as the basis for attaining enlightened and refined thought. This is of utmost importance as many times this strength is neglected by people who are perceived to be “religious.” Islam is a system of life, informed by the teachings of the Divine, and embodied in the real-life example of Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him). Yet, to understand and apply Islamic teachings in a manner that goes beyond blind faith or superficial understanding, one must develop the intellect. Then one learns to think critically, cultivates powers of discernment so as to properly perceive what has value and what has priority, and comprehends the best ways to apply Islamic wisdom and practical solutions to problems facing humanity.

    The fourth type of strength necessary to build a strong Muslim personality capable of serving Allah and serving Islam is financial strength — being able to earn a living. It is very difficult to contribute to the well-being of society when one’s financial situation is so dire that he is primarily occupied with essential issues like food, clothing, shelter, and health care. A Muslim must always seek financial stability and sufficiency so that he can be independent and able to devote time and other resources in his service to Islam. Whether poor or affluent, all should seek some sort of financial stability.

    After mentioning physical, intellectual, and character strength, as well as financial stability, Imam Al-Banna then moves on to point out the importance of pure belief and correct worship. These are the basis and backbone of the first four strengths. Eman and ibabah are the sources by which the Muslim finds his or her direction in daily living and the kind of relationship with the Divine that is required to face the difficulties that come with service to the Truth. They constitute the well which quenches the spiritual thirst of the heart in its search for its natural inclination.

    Hasan al-Basr? said, “O Son of Adam! You are nothing but a compilation of breaths and with each breath that passes, a piece of you is gone.”

    The mission — to be of service to the Truth — requires much from the individual so dedicated, and herein lies the appropriateness and necessity of the last four characteristics. Firstly, the Muslim is constant in fighting his or her base desires. In the struggle to worship Allah (SWT) and live a righteous life there are endless difficulties and tests. These tests are sometimes very clear and open, but sometimes very subtle. They can be tests of our sincerity, whether our ego seeks excessive praise and aggrandizement, whether we are given to conciliation or argumentation, and countless other provocations by the lower self. These tests cannot be overcome except through a never-ending process of learning to control — to moderate, elevate, and channel —one’s desires.

    The next two of these characteristics are to be strict with one’s time and organized in one’s affairs. Time is life itself and the person who squanders time is squandering opportunities to develop the self and purify the heart. In this regard, Hasan al-Basr? said, “O Son of Adam! You are nothing but a compilation of breaths and with each breath that passes, a piece of you is gone.” The well-rounded Muslim will also find that his or her responsibilities always outweigh the amount of time available. For this reason, the Muslim is always strict with his time and organized in her affairs so that they can reap the most benefit from this life before meeting their Lord in the next life.

    The last characteristic is to be beneficial to others. We do well to reflect deeply on this. Everything that came before is lost if we are harmful to those around us. The scholars of Islam have said that the core objective of Islam is to produce benefit. Everything that we do is in the service of Allah (SWT), and what He requires from us is the intention and striving to bring about benefit to ourselves and all of humankind.

    May Allah (SWT) help us to embody these characteristics and bless us with the capacity to manifest Islam in all of its wonderful beauty.

  • Differences Between Reputation, Personality, and Character

    Each and every one of us has three components: our reputation, our personality, and our character. Our reputation is what people think of us. We invest most of our efforts in perfecting our reputations. Why? The reason is that the effort is very little, and the reward is immediate. All we have to do is watch a politician around election time to understand the concept. To be seen by people as kind, they take pictures with an orphan child and, if this news makes the headlines, then they have reached success. To repeat the point, our reputation is what people think of us.

    When it comes to your character, you are in full control. Nobody can ruin your character

    Our personality, on the other hand, is how we present ourselves to people. We spend money, time, and effort on improving our personality. For example, personality enhancement classes teach us how to enhance our smiles. The intention here is to sell an image of ourselves. We are showing people not who we really are, but how we want to be seen.

    Then, there is our character, which is who we really are. To sum up the definitions, reputation is what people think of us, personality is what we seem to be, and character is who we really are. Most of us do not invest enough in character. We like to invest more on reputation and personality, but tend to neglect our character. Sadly, it is our character that truly defines us. If we have good character, then the other two may follow close behind.

    Rewards of having good character may not be immediate. In fact, many times people with good character may go unnoticed. Oftentimes, good character may be a problem for an individual in this life. When everyone around you is a cheater, your goodness and honesty becomes a problem. We may say, ok, forget character then! But, wait! People can only ruin our reputation, but our character can only be ruined by us! When it comes to your character, you are in full control. Nobody can ruin your character. Your character is of your own making, your own choice. As you live life, you are the author of your own life. Reputation is the camouflage. Character is the real thing. Our investment must go into our character, and the rest may or may not come. Alhamdulillah if they do come.

  • Building a Successful Personality

    Building a Successful Personality

    Everyone’s personality is unique. In fact, personality is the sum total of all of the behavioral and mental characteristics by which an individual is recognized as being unique. Decisions define personality, and personality guides decisions. Among the many things that go to make a personality, some are innate and some are learned (acquired). Acquired traits in a personality exert a powerful influence on human destiny – collective and individual. While a constructive behavioral attitude can propel human society to glory, a destructive personality can destroy the very foundations of a glorious civilization.

    Being that personality development is so crucial to the health of a society, it is sad that most of us are letting our personality take shape by itself. In other words, we are letting external forces to influence and modify our behavior at will. No conscious effort is made to build a personality. How many of us have consciously done it? It just happens. In the absence of an internal modular, the TV, newspapers, internet, magazines, organizations, and schools begin to play havoc with human minds. Diverse ideas are propounded, and it is seen that people not only learn it but absorb it, internalize it, and mimic it as though it is natural to them – a bit like monkeys. What is more is that they even think they are ‘cool’ in adopting these discordant pseudo values. It is no wonder that Darwin came out with his origin of species’ sham.

    Obviously, the ideas clash. When one opinion is taken from the pope’s sermon, another from a feminist, another from a gay activist, one from the op-ed in the Times, one from Facebook, and one from a TV soap, the consequence is utter confusion, schizophrenia, bipolar states, and disaster – individual and collective.

    Humans are a part of creation. No other part of creation, we notice, is as confused as human minds are. The sun does not decide to take rest, nor does the moon rise in the west. There are no galactic clashes. Everything is fully disciplined, following a predictable behavior for an assigned length of time.

    Being that personality development is so crucial to the health of a society, it is sad that most of us are letting our personality take shape by itself

    We have to develop an internal modulator to process information, to have a judgment process by which we thrash out the good from the bad, to assimilate the good and excrete the bad. The development of this standard, this measure, this scale which distinguishes truth in all of its forms from falsehood in all of its forms is the most critical aspect of personality development. In fact, once developed, it is the personality itself. The Quran calls itself the furqan (distinguisher between right and wrong) and claims to reveal the meezan (balance). It gives us this knowledge to distinguish the good from the bad.

    It is interesting to note how civilizations have shaped personalities. The Romans promoted physique and physical skills. It persists to this day in our admiration for athletes, gymnasts, bull fighters, and sports people. There were those who encouraged literary arts, painting, dancing, and music. Some societies honored intellectual achievement. Personalities were judged on these counts. How tall are you? How skillful are you? Can you dance well? Can you play the piano? What physical achievement can you boast of? What degrees in education do you possess? How much wealth do you possess? If you are educated with all of the above, you are considered cool, classy, and jazzy. Nobody cares how truthful you are, how honest you are, how faithful you are, the way you earn, the way you spend, how you talk to neighbors, how you behave with parents and children, how you treat the poor, the less fortunate! Here is where Islam steps in. It teaches us that actions are judged not by consequences, but by intentions. It teaches us that human differences in physique, in wealth, in intellect, in knowledge, in abilities are all clever ploys by which God tests people.

    (A Muslim) believes that when truth, justice, honesty are lost, everything is lost

    They have frequently argued. “Hey! Look at these guys (in rags) who cannot afford two square meals and have come to tell us (the wealthy people) that what we do is incorrect. Can anything be more amusing? How could they claim their way leads to success when we are the people responsible for the entire economy?” Today, people say, “We made cars, airplanes, rockets. We invented the internet. We made all the comforts possible today. What did Muslims do? Nothing. So, who is better?”

    While Islam does not discourage physical pursuits, pursuits of wealth and knowledge, it exerts powerful and overwhelming stress on establishing in public life virtues like truth, honesty, trust, kindness, justice, mercy, fairness, courtesy, manners of discipline and equally powerful stress on the suppression (forced if need be) of injustice, dishonesty, cruelty and bad manners.

    A liar cannot also be a Muslim at the same time. One who cheats is not a Muslim. One who does not keep up promises is a Munafiq (hypocrite). One who eats a full meal while his neighbor goes hungry is unlike a Muslim. Likewise, one who gambles, drinks, and robs is unlike a Muslim. Courtesy to women is stressed beyond limit. A Muslim is fair in his dealings. He is not afraid to lose, and is rather scared to cheat. He would rather be a loser in this world. He is not even afraid of death for the sake of justice.

    He believes that when truth, justice, honesty are lost, everything is lost. What remains – wife, children, family, life, wealth, house, business – is all inconsequential. He knows he has to stand in front of Allah (SWT) and account for all of his actions. What good are wealth, family, education, or, for that matter, your life, when you cannot benefit from these in the trial of your life (unlike the trials you see on this earth). These are universal truths. These are the premises on which our inner voice acts, on which Muslims base their decisions, and that defines our personality. Let us pray to Allah (SWT) that He guides us to the straight path and in developing a total Muslim personality. To end, let us say, to Allah (SWT) is all praise – the Lord of the universe.