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  • My Hijab is American

    My Hijab is American

    “Go back to your own country!” the man shouted as he passed me on the street. Instinctively, I looked around to see whom he was addressing. Then I remembered that I’d recently started wearing a hijab, and the fact that I now covered my hair with a scarf was apparently enough to provoke a stranger’s assumptions about my citizenship and trigger irrational anger, and even verbal harassment. That incident happened nearly 23 years ago, but it’s still fresh in my memory. It was one of my first experiences with Islamophobia and the first time I felt like a foreigner in my own homeland.

    “You’re in America now. Dress like an American.” These words were scribbled on an anonymous note and shoved under my best friend’s windshield wipers. Recounting the story to me, my friend chuckled wryly. “My dress is from Macy’s, and my scarf is from Old Navy. I’m pretty sure my clothes are American.” Unlike me who grew up white and Christian, my friend endured bigotry from an early age as the only brown-skinned Muslim girl in a predominantly white neighborhood. That anonymous note was just one of many injustices she’d suffered over the years.

    Though our childhoods were different in some ways, my friend and I were both born and raised in the United States, and we are culturally American. At the same time, we are proud Muslims who choose to dress modestly and cover our hair in accordance with our religion. Though at times we’ve been made to feel like we don’t belong, we know that this is our own country, and we do dress like Americans. In fact, when you think about it, in many ways hijab is quintessentially American. Hijab is American? How?

    Religious Liberty

    The Founding Fathers took many measures to separate church from state. From the very beginning, the United States has championed religious liberty. As historian Jill Lepore writes in her book. These Truths: A History of the United States, “The rights established in the Bill of Rights were also extraordinary. Nearly every English colony in North America had been settled with an established religion . . . So far from establishing a religion, the Constitution doesn’t even mention ‘God,’ except in naming the date. . . At a time when all but two states required religious tests for office, the Constitution prohibited them. At a time when all but three states still had an official religion, the Bill of Rights forbade the federal government from establishing one. Most Americans believed . . . that religion can only thrive if it is not part of government, and that a free government can only thrive if it is not part of religion.”

    The First Amendment forbids Congress from promoting one religion over others and prevents the government from interfering with a person’s beliefs or religious practices. So, every time a Muslim woman openly wears Islamic clothing, she is exemplifying and enjoying a fundamental American right. This same right allows a Jewish man to wear a yarmulke, a Catholic nun to wear a habit and veil, and a Buddhist monk to don a robe. Unlike France, for instance, which has banned visible religious symbols in its public schools, the United States allows its citizens to practice their faith openly, wherever they are. In addition, The Civil Rights Act of 1964 prohibits employers from discriminating on the basis of religion. These are liberties that Americans of any faith should not take for granted. Every time we see someone wearing a symbol of their religion – including a hijab– we should feel grateful and united, not hostile or divided.

    Deep Muslim Roots

    Muslims are not newcomers or interlopers in the United States. We have been present in this land for at least 500 years and are an integral part of the fabric of our nation. According to historian Sam Haselby, “By 1503, we know that Muslims themselves, from West Africa, were in the New World. Muslims thus arrived in America more than a century before the Virginia Company founded the Jamestown colony in 1607. Muslims came to America more than a century before the Puritans founded the Massachusetts Bay Colony in 1630. Muslims were living in America not only before Protestants, but before Protestantism existed. After Catholicism, Islam was the second monotheistic religion in the Americas.” Haselby adds, “Historically, Muslims are Americans, as originally American as Anglo-Protestants. The popular misunderstanding, even among educated people, that Islam and Muslims are recent additions to America tells us important things about how American history has been written.”

    We must also remember that many enslaved Africans were Muslims. Their bloodlines and their influence on our culture continue to this day. Historian Dr. Sylviane Diouf writes, “Estimates vary, but [Muslims] were at least 900,000 out of the 12.5 million Africans taken to the Americas. Among the 400,000 Africans who spent their lives enslaved in the United States, tens of thousands were Muslims.”

    Most of those enslaved people were forced to abandon their Islamic practices, but some found ways to preserve their faith, at great personal risk. According to an article in The Conversation, “Historian Sylviane Diouf explains how despite such efforts, many slaves retained aspects of their customs and traditions, and found new, creative ways to express them. Diouf argues that blues music, one of the quintessential forms of American culture, can trace its origins to Muslim influences from the slave era.”

    Future Growth

    While Muslims currently make up a little over 1% of the population in the U.S., our numbers are growing exponentially. The Pew Research Center “estimates that there were about 3.45 million Muslims of all ages living in the U.S. in 2017, and that Muslims made up about 1.1% of the total U.S. population. By 2040, Muslims will replace Jews as the nation’s second-largest religious group after Christians. And by 2050, the U.S. Muslim population is projected to reach 8.1 million, or 2.1% of the nation’s total population — nearly twice the share of today.”

    Clearly Muslims are a rapidly-growing demographic, and in many ways that is good news for the United States. Because Islam requires high standards of behavior, sincere, practicing Muslims will always strive to be excellent neighbors, colleagues, citizens, and friends. “About seven-in-ten Muslims (69%) say working for justice and equality in society is essential to what it means to be Muslim, and nearly as many (62%) say the same about protecting the environment,” according to the Pew Research Center.

    Far from being anti-American, Muslims in the U.S. are proud of their faith and their nationality. “Muslim Americans overwhelmingly embrace both the ‘Muslim’ and ‘American’ parts of their identity,” reports another Pew Research poll. “For instance, the vast majority of U.S. Muslims say they are proud to be American (92%), while nearly all say they are proud to be Muslim (97%). Indeed, about nine-in-ten (89%) say they are proud to be both Muslim and American.”

    Stronger When United

    Most people are not so bigoted that they would shout at a Muslim on the street or leave demeaning notes on their windshield. However, there are many Americans who consider themselves open minded and tolerant, yet still make negative assumptions – even subconsciously – when they see a Muslim, especially one wearing a hijab. While Muslim women don’t need the approval or validation of strangers, I do hope this essay might open some eyes and hearts. After all, we live together in this nation, and we are stronger when we are united.

    Muslims are a fundamental, positive part of this country’s past, present, and future. Those of us who wear a hijab are exercising our right to religious freedom. It is a private, voluntary act of worship that is visible to the public, and we are grateful that our Constitution protects us. Rather than inspiring negativity, xenophobia, and misconceptions, our hijab should remind our fellow citizens of the rich diversity, the unique and precious religious liberty, and the meaningful Islamic roots of this nation. Hijab is American. This is our country, too.

  • Muslim Women’s Day: Gender Equity, Equality, and Roles in Islam

    Muslim Women’s Day: Gender Equity, Equality, and Roles in Islam

    So often, we, the female community, are told that we aren’t capable. And we witness the cultural narration of male superiority that stains people’s minds, still evident in our contemporary world. We experience or witness the cultural gender gap and female oppression in predominantly Muslim countries. I specify “culture,” because culture is where the injustice and oppression against women originates. Culture is what systematically and psychologically warps people’s minds about women. Islam, in contrast, honors women. Islam has established women rights, their dignity, and their worthiness. Any culture which does not implement fully the Islamic dictums and principles with regard to gender will fail to honor women in the way that Allah SWT ordains. We must banish the dark clouds of ignorance and seek to enlighten people about the Islamic view of gender identity, relations, and rights.

    Gender Equality Versus Gender Equity

    Gender equality can be defined as rights, responsibilities, and opportunities being accorded regardless of gender. Equality thus does not take into account the biological and natural tendencies of each gender. Yet, in the Qur’an, Allah SWT affirms the gender differences of the male and the female. The wife of Imran had made du’a to Allah SWT, wanting to dedicate her unborn child (Maryam, the mother of Jesus) to His service. The Qur’an says, “But when she delivered her, she said, ‘My Lord, I have delivered a female.’ And Allah was most knowing of what she delivered, and the male is not like the female…” (3:36). Gender differences are biological, an intrinsic nature. Because of gender differences, Islam aligns more with the views of gender equity than with gender equality. Gender equity means, according to a UNESCO summary review, “fairness of treatment for men and women according to their respective needs. This may include equal treatment or treatment that is different, but which is considered equivalent in terms of rights, benefits, obligations, and opportunities.”

    An example of gender equity is in sports. There are separate leagues in most sports for men and for women. The obvious reason is that males and females have biological differences. Therefore, the separation promotes fairness rather than males and females competing together regardless of natural advantages or disadvantages. Males and females are not the same physically, mentally, or emotionally. With the specific strengths and weaknesses specific to each gender, Allah SWT gave each gender certain responsibilities in accordance with their nature.

    The responsibility that has been firmly directed to men is to support his family financially (Qur’an 4:34). This includes any household costs and any and all costs to support members of the family. Although a woman does not have the responsibility of financial support of the family, she can rightfully earn, spend, and keep her money without interference. The responsibilities of women are to take care of the husband in the home as well as the children if there are any offspring. The high value and level of dignity accorded to the role of the mother is depicted in the Prophet (s) saying, “Paradise lies under the feet of mothers.”

    The roles of men and women are meant to be complementary. This division of labor makes perfect sense and suits the intrinsic natures of the genders. The importance of the woman as the heart of the family rather than as a domestic worker is underscored by the behavior of the Prophet. He used to help his wife Aishah with household chores. When Aishah (r) was asked what the Prophet (s) when he was at home, she said, “He used to keep himself busy serving his family and when it was the time for prayer, he would go for it.” Men and women are expected to be “allies” to one another (Qur’an 9:71) and in a marriage, their roles are complementary. Both women and men equally have the right to consent to or reject a marriage proposal and each has the right to a divorce. However, men must pay a mahr (dowry) to the woman. If the woman initiates a divorce, she must pay back the mahr to the man.

    Spiritual Equality

    In the Qur’an, Allah SWT says, “And whoever does righteous deeds, whether male or female, while being a believer – those will enter Paradise and will not be wronged, by as much as the speck on a date seed” (4:124). In Islam, there is spiritual equality of the male and the female. The deeds of men and women are justly determined on the same scale. And as Shaykh Yasir Qadri points out, “The potential to enter Jannah is the same regardless of gender.”

    In fact, the Qur’an does not attribute superiority based on biological gender. Allah SWT says in the Qur’an, “Surely the most noble of you in the sight of Allah is the most righteous among you” (49:13). That applies to all human beings, male and female. The Prophet’s wife, Umm Salama, once asked the Prophet (s) why Allah SWT addressed men in the Qur’an but not women specifically. Allah SWT soon revealed this verse: “Indeed, the Muslim men and Muslim women, the believing men and believing women, the obedient men and obedient women, the truthful men and truthful women, the patient men and patient women, the humble men and humble women, the charitable men and charitable women, the fasting men and fasting women, the men who guard their private parts and the women who do so, and the men who remember Allah often and the women who do so – for them Allah has prepared forgiveness and a great reward” (Qur’an 33:35).

    Securing Our Space

    The theme for this year’s Muslim Women’s Day is “Securing Our Space.” This is about learning to get out of our comfort zone and advocate for ourselves. Cultures stereotype women in various ways. Some characterize her as a domestic worker, no better than a servant. Some sexualize her and make it like her appearance is the most important thing about her rather than her character or her soul. Some cultures depict women as emotionally unstable. It is up to us to carry ourselves with respectability and embody the character that Islam enjoins upon human beings. We advocate for ourselves by working on ourselves, purifying our hearts, and emulating the Prophet in the way that he lived — with the greatest strength, dignity, and integrity. In this way, we are best capable of speaking up and demanding the full rights accorded to us by Islam.